Tonight, my husband and I signed our lives away. Well, not really but kind of. We finally read over the IVF packet that the clinic gave us. It's basically a big ole fat disclaimer, "If you don't get any babies out of this... or if you die...it's not our fault. Oh and you still have to pay us." That kind of disclaimer...
But we understood all that going into this, and so we signed...
The last page of the packet was the most depressing, since it was all about divorce and death. We had to sign off on who gets the embies if we get divorced before transfer, or who gets the leftover frozen embies if we get divorced. AND we had to sign off on that if we both were to die, that the clinic would destroy the embies!! So morbid. It got me thinking though, I wonder if (God forbid) that happened, why we couldn't have the embryos adopted? I'm actually thinking of asking them at my appointment tomorrow. We think we'd want to give a deserving couple our embies, if God forbid something happened to us. I wouldn't want my babies killed off! So I'm going to ask them about this. My mom and I were joking about what a depressing Lifetime movie that story would make...
So there you have it. We hope this signing and sealing leads to delivering :)
13 comments:
Congrats and welcome to this crazy rollercoaster ride!
We had the option to have the embryos destroyed or donated to another couple. I warned my Mother-in-Law that if we both died and she saw a little child that looked like W and me, it really could be our kid. Pretty strange to think about that too.
Did you do a package deal or just one IVF?
yay! so exciting!!
I hope the clinic gives you the adoption option, that would be wonderful!
Day 3...way to go!!
The book Sing You Home by Jodi Picoult is about divorce and frozen embryos. It's a good book. But as I just posted on FB pregnant women and those trying to get pregnant shouldn't read her books.
Huh. We had the option of "wife decides", "husband decides", "neutral third party decides", "embryo adoption", "embryo donation to science", and "destroy" for every scenario (except if I die, I don't get to decide, which is rather unfair, I'd say.)
We're not candidates with my clinic for donation to another couple though, because my husband is adopted so we can't provide a full medical history.
I have never even considered the legal paperwork that must accompany IVF. We knew we were going to sign a lot for egg/sperm donation if we went that route. Hoping that your paperwork never needs to be looked at again!
good luck to you and congrats to your friend!!
Triplets?! Wow...congrats to her!
I never thought of all those 'worst case scenarios' but I guess it makes sense. Still, what a weird document to sign!
Lifetime Movie is right! I know what you mean though...why couldn't that be an option?? I am so happy that you are on the road and moving ahead. You deserve so much happiness. Lunch soon?
I had no idea or even thought about what to do with the embryos.....The things you think you will never have to know or deal with huh??? Good luck to you and I like the end of your post - Here's to hoping signing leads to delivery, amen sista!!! :)
ah ah ah!! i can't believe this is happening for you guys. so great. I'll be praying for you!!
thinking about signing all those papers about what happens in case of divorce or death just makes me oh so sad. :(
Ahhhhh this is exciting for u guys! I'll be thinking of u and praying for u hard!! :) thank u for ur comment today on my blog. Ur right.. I gotta go w my gut feeling. Only my gut is telling me so many different things :) hehe. I'm hoping to clear my head in the next few days and see what happens. I can't give up.
Big hugs to u my friend <3
That means you are one step closer to your baby I hope!!!
C and I always agreed if we had extra embabies we would definitely place them for adoption to a needing couple. Pay it forward :)
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